Rules About Dating: Who Pays?

There are a lot of rules about dating. One of the biggest sources of dating insecurity arises from the question: who pays, and for how long? Like, if you meet someone for the first time, who’s supposed to pay for the lattes – the one who asked the other person on the date, or does the guy always pay on the first date?

Rules About Dating Who Pays
Rules About Dating: Who Pays?

If you follow that school of thought, the next question begs, when does the “he pays” rule change? There are the girls who learned that if she pays for the date, or at least her half of the tab, then he won’t/can’t have any expectations, and that keeps her in a power position over her own sexuality. Others then ask, what does that do to a man’s sense of masculinity?

To make these questions further complicated in real world settings, one must ask: do all of those rules go right out the window when it’s two girls on a date, or two guys on their first date? What if there’s a major disparity in incomes between the dating partners?

Then what happens if one person was raised by traditionalists, and the other was raised by progressive parents? They’ll have completely different ideas about who buys the drinks.

Just the fiscal aspect of dating can make going out with someone new such a hassle, at the very least; or a total disaster, because each person is so worried about what’s expected of them that they never really get the chance to check out the person sitting right in front of them!

Let’s face it, it’s embarrassing to talk about money, especially with someone that you may or may not become intimate with, eventually.

That’s why phone dating really is a great way to start meeting new locals. You get to spend time on the phone, actually having real conversations without the pressure about who’s going to pay for this bit of time together. You just get to learn about this person, and talk about this topic before you actually meet up in real life!

You’ll go into your first date feeling confident, because you’ve figured it all out in advance! Which will help with every other aspect of your future relationship, too! Share who you are, and find someone compatible without ever leaving your house. Plus, you’ll never have to pay for a really bad date ever again!